Recently I saw some comments that the director of the new Disney live action version of Beauty and the Beast made about his film. He talked about taking a classic character and making them gay in the film. The article said it would be a “significant subplot”. The article also praised Disney for “helping to change attitudes and bring about real social progress”.
I posted this article on Facebook with the caption “Sadly, now I’ll just skip this one. Always pushing the agendas…” I never called for a boycott (not a fan of them) or told others what they should do. I have many friends that will see this movie and probably enjoy it. That’s cool with me. I hate that they took a character that never was gay and made him gay just to “promote” the lifestyle. They didn’t write a movie about a gay character, they took a classic existing character and just made him gay because that’s in vogue these days. I found that offensive and decided I’ll just skip this movie.
First off, my post wasn’t meant to start a firestorm. Some people will intentionally mischaracterize you on purpose to have a straw man they can tear down. I also got some comments from well-meaning Christians saying basically this topic should be off limits simply because people “could” be offended. These Christians usually only apply this test to the big subjects like gay marriage, gender identity, abortion, or race issues; You know, the biggest most crucial issues of society that should be discussed the most. They don’t say anything if I offend an alcoholic, white supremacist or someone else. This is a coercive way to shut down discussion on hot topics and I will never submit to this “seeker sensitive” logic espoused by some Christians and churches. My goal is not to personally attack and I have never called names. Things will be taken out of context and, although that’s unfortunate, I’m ok with that happening to some degree just for the right to say something and have some sort of dialogue.
The worst thing about social media is not the people that intentionally misrepresent your position on purpose. They will do that no matter what. The sad part is that some ignorantly mistake what you are saying because text on a screen loses the tone of voice and look in the eyes while those words are typed. It’s so easy to see a post and assume someone was gritting their teeth and stomping their fist on the desk while typing it. It may have just been a fun sarcastic quip (I love me some sarcasm) that you wouldn’t think twice about if you heard and saw them say it in person. The sad part is… text on a screen loses the tone of voice and look in the eyes while those words are typed.
The sad part is… text on a screen loses the tone of voice and look in the eyes while those words are typed.
Well… It wasn’t long before some comments appeared with the word “bigot”, hateful, and even some cursing. The way the word bigot was being used by many was to imply that you are a bigot if you disagree with a person or group of people. By that definition we are all bigots because nobody on the planet can agree with every person and every group on every issue.
The real definition of bigot goes much deeper than just thinking something is wrong. I think lots of things are wrong. I think rape, lying, drunkenness, pedophilia, pride, radical Islam, and much more are wrong. Most of these opinions don’t get me called a bigot, for some reason (except “radical Islam” from time to time). Bigot has to mean more than just the fact that I disagree with you or your lifestyle. The definition of bigot says you treat a group of people with “hatred”. The true implication of bigot is to think yourself better than others and literally hate them.
Let’s be clear, I don’t think I’m better than anyone. In fact, I think I’m the worst sinner I know. I know every single dirty thought in my head. I disgust myself way too many times. That is why I seek forgiveness based on my status as a sinner. Sometimes I want to justify my sin and think it’s not as bad as others. That’s human nature. But then I look at scripture and pray and Jesus reminds me of all the filth in my life that he saved me from and helps me keep proper perspective.
God doesn’t have a pecking order for sins that says some are more condemning than others. We are all guilty. I tend to struggle with anger and lust. I had an abusive father that taught me some bad tendencies and I’m trying to win that battle daily. I also struggle with lust in many forms. I can be a glutton with my lust for food. I keep myself from movies with nudity because I know those images in my mind are not good. I am trying daily to become more like Christ and not make excuses for any of my many shortcomings. I think I’m the worst sinner I know. I know every single dirty thought in my head. I disgust myself way too many times.
I think I’m the worst sinner I know. I know every single dirty thought in my head. I disgust myself way too many times.
Being more like Christ means I don’t hate anyone. I have gay friends, alcoholic friends, friends that struggle with pornography and much more. I am here for each of them if they need me. But I have to balance that with truth and reality. My alcoholic friends know I think that is sinful and destructive. My gay friends know I think that is sinful and destructive. They also know I think my own sins are destructive. There is a consistency that is also applied to myself.
The Bible doesn’t just tell us the standard to show us that we are all sinners and don’t measure up. That is true, for sure, but these barriers are also put there in a practical way to save us from pain and destruction. The Bible says you can have a glass of wine but getting drunk will hurt you so don’t do it. You can have sex (and it’s great) but only in Biblical marriage to save you from heartache and pain. This is the same way you’d protect a two year old by telling them not to touch the flame on the stove or play in the streets. It’s not to be mean, but because you love them, that you do it. If you hated them you wouldn’t even care.
We are all born sinners because we are decedents from Adam (Romans 5:12). So we will all have sins and sin in different ways. However, I wasn’t born with an anger gene, my father wasn’t born with an alcoholic gene, a prideful person wasn’t born with a gene that made them that specific way, and a homosexual is not born with a gay gene. We are all born sinners, for sure, but no specific sin is set in us from birth that we have no choice. Our specific type of sins and struggles usually come about by some hurts or situations in life that bend us that way. It could be abuse, or patterns we learn from other family members or relatives. That is why alcoholism tends to run in families. It’s not because you got unlucky and had the gene passed down, it’s because you learned that behavior. We are all called to turn from our sins and we decide if we will heed that call. Everyone must do this no matter what specific struggle they have. We are all equally guilty.
The Bible also offers every person the free gift of forgiveness through Christ (1 Corinthians 15:21-22). This means me, you, and any gay person reading this. It also doesn’t mean you’ll never struggle with those sins again. I have to confront mine daily and you will to. But God will judge us all by His standard, not ours. His standard is perfection. So if you are not perfect, and you sin, then you better find someone perfect to pay that price for you. Jesus is the only one that can pay it. He came and let them kill him to pay that price for you. He loves you in spite of your flaws.
You don’t have to be perfect to be a Christian but you must be willing to admit your sin and ask him to forgive you and pay your price. All it takes is an honest assessment of where you stand based on God’s standard of righteousness and asking Jesus to save you. You just have to mean it and put your trust in Him. This applies to all sinners. There are no exceptions! Nobody is too bad or disgusting! Nobody is good enough, either.
I’m also aware that there are many people who claim to be Christians that are very hateful and see themselves better or wish harm on others. Those people don’t have a proper understanding of their own sins and may not actually be Christians. Becoming a Christian requires you to admit how short you fall on God’s standard. If they don’t see that then they are not followers of Christ. You don’t have to be perfect to be a Christian but you must be willing to admit your sin and ask him to forgive you and pay your price.
You don’t have to be perfect to be a Christian but you must be willing to admit your sin and ask him to forgive you and pay your price.
If you are gay please understand I don’t hate you. But I honestly believe that lifestyle is destructive. What kind of person would I be if I knew someone was drinking poison laced with honey but didn’t say anything because the honey makes them happy? That would be hateful and “bigoted” by the full and true definition of that word.
Don’t be bigots…Tell the truth!
John 3:16 “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.”
2 Corinthians 5:21 “For God made Christ, who never sinned, to be the offering for our sin, so that we could be made right with God through Christ”
Matthew 11:28 “Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.”
Romans 10:9-13 “If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes and is justified, and with the mouth one confesses and is saved. For the Scripture says, “Everyone who believes in him will not be put to shame.” For there is no distinction between Jew and Greek; for the same Lord is Lord of all, bestowing his riches on all who call on him. For “everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.”