Get ready for it. It may already be in the mail. Soon you will be invited to attend a gay wedding. As a Christian, should you attend? The Bible is very clear that homosexuality is a sin. However, the question I am addressing now is – “Should a Christian ever attend a gay wedding?”
First, I must address some things. After the Supreme Court’s decision to make same-sex weddings the law in all fifty states, there have been obnoxious comments and gestures on both sides of this debate. It’s played out all over social media and throughout the country. Christians should stick to sharing truth in a loving way and resist lashing out in an emotional tantrum. Some things I’ve seen recently on social media are sickening. Again, don’t ever let your testimony suffer as you look the fool. Saying things like, “have fun in the lake of fire” or “let’s put them all on an island and blow it up” and then invoking the name of Christ proves you are not actually following Him.
Now I agree you should stand up and share truth but you must do it with reasoned and thoughtful arguments. You are also allowed to be sad, sickened, hurt and fearful by these legal decisions. But you can’t be ruled by these emotions.
We rightly celebrated the Christ-like example of the victims of the Charleston church shooting this past week when they verbally offered forgiveness for Dylann Roof and called him to repent. We honored the life of Elisabeth Elliot who passed away this past week, a Christian missionary who went with her young daughter to live with and share Jesus Christ to the very people who murdered her husband. Here is her recent obituary if you are not familiar with her story.
However, we can’t celebrate these godly examples of the Grace Jesus offers and then turn venomous with our comments towards homosexuals. We must realize they are just fallen people, like all of us, whose only hope is Jesus Christ. Sharing that truth is our objective, not winning a cultural or political fight. We should always seek hearts and share truth in love, in love.
1 Peter 3:15-16 states, “but in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect, 16 having a good conscience, so that, when you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ may be put to shame.”
We should also not be surprised when fallen people act…fallen.
Even when faced with these dispecable actions we MUST never repay evil with evil by acting with a vengeful attitude towards any lost sheep. (Romans12:17-21) Jesus will defend His own honor!
My heart breaks over the Supreme Court decision. I know it will make many homosexuals feel like they have been morally vindicated in the short term. They will feel like they have gotten the justification they have sought. However, later down the road when they are alone, the emptiness will come rushing back. The hurt and confusion will overwhelm some as they pause and consider themselves. Sadly, just like I recently wrote about Bruce Jenner they will be used and discarded; A pawn in an agenda to spread “moral relativity” and eradicate “absolute truth” itself. The human cost in this argument is agonizing as many people – especially children – will be hurt. I believe this decision will actually put people in more bondage, rather than set them free.
I also must concede it will get very difficult for those of us who boldly stand on God’s Word very soon. All four of the dissenting justices on the Supreme Court warned of this in their opinions. As Justice Samuel Alito stated the decision, “will be used to vilify Americans unwilling to assent to the new orthodoxy.” Many Christian institutions and ministries will begin to get sued. You can also look to the majority decision written by Justice Kennedy when he addresses religious freedom. He said we would have to the right to “teach” what we want when it comes to religious liberty. The word he chose to use in relation to our religious freedom was “teach”; a far cry from the actual words in the United States Constitution stating we have the “free exercise” of religion.
I expect a university like Liberty University will be sued for housing rules to allow Gay couples to attend and live on campus in marital housing. Pastors and churches will be sued for refusing to perform these ceremonies. More bakeries, photographers, and other businesses will be sued and likely have to close their doors for refusing to give in to sincerely-held religious objections. Many employees will be fired and labeled “bigoted” or “hateful” for voicing truth and a belief in God’s Word. Or they will cave in and abandon their convictions.
We must endure…
Part of enduring is standing firm and sharing truth regardless of the consequences. I will stand for Christ if you take my job, my reputation, my home, my freedom, or my life. Will you? What is your worldview, really? I tackled the overall subject of worldview in a previous Blog, here. I would suggest you read it
While I do believe we should seek out the lost and go where sinners actually are – a marriage ceremony is completely different. When it comes to marriage, there is no denying that consent is built into the marriage ceremony itself. Part of the entire proceeding when you attend a wedding is the fact that it’s understood that all in attendance are agreeing to and endorsing the union itself. We are even given a specific time in the ceremony to voice concerns if this is not the case. The most common verbiage is, “Speak now or forever hold your peace.”
So do you believe God’s word? If you do, you must not consent to such a union. It doesn’t matter whether it involves your son, daughter, sister, brother, best friend, or a co-worker. Not only does this union go against God’s natural law and order, but God’s Word is crystal clear when it defines marriage as the union of one man and one woman. As a matter of fact there is only one verse repeated three times by three different people in the Bible – written by Moses ( Genesis 2:22-24 ), recited by Jesus (Matthew 19:4-5 and Mark 10:6-9 ), and reiterated by the Apostle Paul ( Ephesians 5:31 ). These verses effectively end the debate for a Christian that truly wishes to follow God’s precepts as laid out in His Word.
Here are a few of Jesus’ words warning that following him will have costs: Matthew 16:24 – Then Jesus told his disciples, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. Luke 14:28 – “Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Won’t you first sit down and estimate the cost to see if you have enough money to complete it?
So, should a Christian attend a Gay Wedding? No
You better start counting the cost now and decide if you are willing to pay the price…